Wisdom is Wise Mind
The popular Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) skill, Wise Mind, is essentially about finding the wisdom within all of us. In Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy there is a Self-energy, this is not a part of the personality but rather it too is the wisdom within us, as the founder Dick Schwartz PhD describes the Self as: calm, connected, compassionate, creative, clarity, curious, confident, and courageous.
Similarly, in modern spiritual circles, there is often a reference to the Higher Self, which qualities are of being more conscious, compassionate, open-hearted and intuitive.
Whatever you want to call it, we all have wisdom within us, whether we are aware of it or not. It is our natural state of being actually and it is the most healing force there is. Yet, it is most often overhauled by our minds social conditioning that stems from the mass consciousness. So how then do we better tap into our own wisdom.
Wisdom Is Sensory, Not Verbal
The voice in your head has been socially conditioned by mass consciousness and it shows up as streams of thoughts. Wisdom however shows up as emotions and/or physical sensations in your body.
The emotional centers of the brain and the “gut-brain” (bundle of nerves in your belly center) have been evolving far longer than language. This system, even more than logic, is attuned to help you intuitively navigate your way through life. So, in making wise decisions, listen to your intuition, rather than searching your mind.
One way to practice this, is to hold each option in your mind’s-eye, then feel its effect on your body and emotions. If you feel constriction, tightness, or unpleasantness it likely signals something is off or not right for you. Whereas a wise decision for you may bring feelings and sensations that signal exhilaration, relief, peace, or something pleasant.
Wisdom Is Calm, Not Fearful
In our mass consciousness lies the voice of social conditioning which is often loud and critical. It may sound like, “Why did you do that?” or “Do not screw this up!” On the other hand, wisdom is gentle; it can be subtle guidance from deep within. It will not be pressured or forceful, like the voice of social conditioning can be. So, try moving beyond the stream of thoughts, to a place of more stillness within you.
It often helps to bring your attention to the center of your chest or along your core body and spine. It may be helpful to gently slow down your breath, and take a few more conscious and deeper breaths, to center yourself. You may also lie down if that helps. Your inner guidance is there, albeit subtle. Wisdom may even be telling you it just feels good to just relax.
Wisdom Is Intuitive, Not Forced
As humans we are specifically trained to follow rules and to cooperate. Too often we feel forced in some way to follow along. Wisdom works differently, so it may feel difficult or uncomfortable as your mind wants instructions. If doubt comes up, just know this is your socially conditioned mind and ask it to gently give you some space.
To open to our intuitive self, it helps to practice stillness, patience, and the art of receiving. Remind yourself there is no specific outcome or length of time, it is a practice to learn to listen within. The guidance may come to you in the moment, or along the way, as you open yourself.